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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is sad to read, but not my experience.  I have a daughter and just yesterday I was telling my husband how you can really tell that kids are being raised with an emphasis on kindness now as compared to when I was growing up.  We had our first soccer practice yesterday and they were all hugging each other after scores; there was another girl from her GS troop on the team and they greeted each other like a long-lost friends even though they'd only met once.  I asked her if she really liked Larla, did they talk at the troop meeting?  And she said "Mom, if you're in Girl Scouts together you *all* can be best friends."

I'm sure we'll run into relational aggression issues as they get older, but I'm glad it hasn't been an issue for my daughter yet.[/quote]

It does sound like your daughter is very young. It's true that in preschool and kindergarten, the adults around kids tend to emphasize kindness a lot. I have found there is less of this as you progress through elementary school, and especially that other parents doing reinforce concepts of kindness at home. By 2nd or 3rd grade, the girls in my child's classes had become quite clique-ish and exclusionary, and I'd started to see quite a bit of unkind behavior. And this is at a school we chose for the nurturing and pleasant environment. I've also seen that other parents become more competitive about their kids around this age, especially around sports, and there is often effort to create separation. You'd think parents would be encourage to see their kids bond over shared interests at this age, for instance. But I've seen parents seek to emphasize that their child is on an advanced track in those interests, so not really like the other kids.

I do remember the "we can all be best friends!" phase but it just doesn't last.[/quote]

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