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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just didn't do it.  What could she do? I would just tell her that there are different ways of doing things.
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Was she ever deeply or personally hurt by this?

My mother in law has her face visibly drop with sadness in each of the above instances

From her perspective we are rejective the only thing she has ever known [/quote]
Yes, she was hurt, but I'm not going to raise my child the way she wants just to make her feel better.

This is about cultural beliefs, and the fact that you are not following her cultural beliefs.  I went through the same thing as a child of immigrants. I had to follow their culture even though we lived in the US, and this was at a time when there weren't many immigrants from my parents country at the time (late 60s/early 70s).   That was really hard for me because I had to straddle two worlds, and I never fit into either.

I understand why our parents are hurt by it, but it's also not fair for them to expect us to follow all of their beliefs while living in a different country in the 21st century.

This is not to say that I don't follow ANY of the beliefs from that home country. Some of it has been found to be accepted by modern medicine, like acupuncture or cupping.   But, things like tying a red string around the ankle when the baby has hiccups?  Nah. I wouldn't follow that because it's like voodoo magic or something.[/quote]

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