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[quote=Anonymous]I just didn't do it.  What could she do? I would just tell her that there are different ways of doing things.

I guess it helped that DH is from another country where they did things differently from my mom's country.  So, I would tell her that DH's mom didn't do it that way, and he's healthy as a horse. Of course, my  mother would say, "But larlo has our blood, and we are different."  My kids are 17 and 20. They aren't that different, other than being smaller framed compared to Europeans, but not short   (I'm Asian).

Like, my  mother was aghast that I took my newborn outside in a stroller, covered with a blanket, when it was sunny but a bit windy, just to get some air - for myself and my baby.  In my  mom's culture, you do not take a newborn outside for like 100 days.  There was no way I was not going to go outside with my baby for 3 months.  Or another thing was I should not touch cold water after giving birth, or shower. Um. yea, that also wasn't going to happen. These beliefs stemmed from the harsh living conditions that mothers from my mom's home country went through.  While I understood why they followed these beliefs, obviously, a lot of it was due to the lack of modern medicine that we are privileged to have here.

The other gem was sleeping with the fan on  -- fan death is what it's called.   I was a bad mom for letting my kids sleep with the fan on because they might die. OH boy.

I did pick and choose the things from both cultures, and the American culture, that I thought made sense, and of course, I researched topics on my own.

Needless to say, my mother and I don't see eye to eye on many things.[/quote]

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