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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My extended family is not close at all. All conversations are extremely surface level. No one expresses emotions or tried to spend time together. There is extreme distance.

I wondered how others with families who aren’t close cope? Have you been able to create a close nuclear family?

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I've had to accept this is the way they are. My family goes further than that-there is manipulation, emotional abuse, gaslighting. I could have a healthy relationship with my dad and brother both of whom passed away. The women have been the issue (and I'm female). I had to create distance, and keep things superficial and low contact for survival.

I did create a close family of my own. My husband and I are cycle-breakers and we have a healthy marriage and are close to our kids. I have good friends, but am too overwhelmed to really be the friend I'd like to be. One of my kids has special needs and medical issues and my mother has aging needs which is complicated given our history. Between that, work and other demands as someone with introverted tendencies I do need alone time/down time to replenish. So I value my friendships and care deeply for my friends, but we don't have the type of closeness I had with friends growing up and in college, but I am still friends with some from growing up and college and they too are pulled in different directions so this may just be partly a middle age thing.[/quote]

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