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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ignore the emotional barbs she is throwing, she does that because she is emotionally immature and doesn't know how to communicate.

So treat her like a toddler throwing a tantrum.  Just get to the heart of the request.  So when she says "Oh it's been WEEKS since you called me I just can't believe it, you never make time for me!" you just say "would you like to schedule a visit?".

You are getting pulled into defending your reasoning and choices and emotions to her.  Don't do that.  Treat it like business.  Drop the emotional rope, that's her own ish to figure out.

And yes, spend less time with someone who goes out their way to make you feel like you are never doing enough.  Life is too short for that.[/quote]

This is what I would do.  I wouldn't reach out about a visit, but if she asks I would just schedule a time for her to visit that is convenient for YOUR family.  I wouldn't go out of my way to accommodate her, but I would let her come see the grandkids when it is convenient for you.  Just save yourself the drama and ignore all her barbs- as an added bonus, it will probably drive her crazy that you aren't taking the bait.[/quote]

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