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[quote=Anonymous]and i can't really talk about it elsewhere for various reasons.

i'm adopted. got in touch with birth mom a while ago, things went well, i see her about once a year. after a few years, she decided she wanted to introduce me to bio dad. she'd never told him she had a baby, so it was a big surprise. he's nice, but distant (not like he's had decades to get used to the idea). it's fine. small complication in that she'd been dating two guys around that time and some folks thought another guy might have been the dad, but she was adamant that he was not.

i don't actually care, i don't need a relationship with any of them. again, it's been many decades. i never wanted to do dna testing to "know for sure", especially if that might mean trauma for birth mom. (sounded like other dude did not treat her well.) years pass.

get a text out of the blue from a number i don't recognize, offering to give me pictures and info on my paternal side of the family. google shows it's a relative of bio dad. i ask if (name redacted) is ok because i haven't heard from in a while. they respond by asking if i perhaps think (redacted) is my dad?

i ask who gave them my number and they say (redacted).

wtf.

apparently all along he has always thought that i was the other dudes kid, possibly because his relative was good friends with other dude and so went on and on about how the big tragedy of other dudes life was that he never found his long-lost kid. when their relative brought it up again recently he was just like "oh heres their number".

only saving grace here is that other dude is now dead, so i don't actually have to deal with complications there. but sheesh! now i'm tempted to do a dna test just to figure out how much of a jerk my (redacted) is.

stranger seems super invested in the thought that they've finally found their dead friends kid. i'm just boggled that (redacted) handed over my phone number without even a heads up. not going dump all this on birth mom cause she don't need that mess. [/quote]

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