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[quote=Anonymous]I’m in my early 40s, married with two elementary aged kids. My husband and I both work full time. In general, we have a pretty good life, but things are busy and there are certainly stresses at times.

My mom and stepdad (they’ve been together 20 years) are in their early 70s. They’re retired, reasonably healthy, have hobbies, an active social life, they travel. They seem to have a pretty nice life.

For some reason, my mom always seems eager for me to admit something is hard or stressful or unpleasant. It’s like she won’t just accept that we’re pretty happy most of the time. She pushes me to talk about about our busy schedule or work stress or other potentially tough things, seemingly in hopes that I’ll admit that something in my life is awful or really hard. She’ll also talk in great detail about anything difficult going on with anyone else we know. She says she’s concerned or feels bad for them, but sometimes it seems like she’s getting pleasure out of sharing the news.

Why does she do this?? Is it schadenfreude? Something else?  I’ve been noticing it a lot over the past year or two, but I’m wondering if it was always there and I just didn’t see it before. Anyone else have experience with this?[/quote]

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