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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Every lie we tell incurs a debt to the truth and sooner or later that debt will be paid.”

Unfortunately, the truth most of us need to realize is we are not the hero in anyone’s story.  We aren’t looking for our soulmate, we are searching for someone to commit to a shared false reality with us.  What begins as a shared experience, eventually diverges into two different stories that are intertwined by history.  It takes work to keep the stories we tell ourselves and others aligned and that work keeps the relationship ties strong.

Cheating is the product of a coward being unwilling to work at changing their story, to create another false reality.   They fracture themselves by living multiple lies and compartmentalizing multiple versions of themselves.   Having the strength to develop a new chapter of the shared story or writing the ending of it properly defines the value of your character in every story.

Who are you in your story?  If you don’t like your story, own it and do the work to change it.[/quote]

Okay, so, points for the Chernobyl reference. Beyond that... I can't really relate.

I don't want to be the hero in anyone's story but my own, and my story clearly shows multiple times where I have been (and a few where I fell short and had to dust off, recalibrate, and continue). I don't believe in the idea of "soulmates". Like most religious mythology, a lot of this garbage began as a control structure. It's not for me.

What keeps relationships strong is integrity, not storytelling. Storytelling goes back to your opening quote (and it's origin). It does take an incredible amount of effort to continue to fabricate plausible stories, and to deny one's own understanding of reality and what doesn't sit well with their integrity. Lies have a cost.

Which, I guess, circles back to your close. Who are you? Not in the story you tell about yourself, or the story you tell yourself in your head. Who, actually, are you? What are you actually doing? What level of responsibility are you willing to take for your actions, past and present? What is the cost of continuing with your "story" and what debt has it incurred to the reality of who you are, what you've done, and what you're currently doing (and probably making stories about/excuses for)?[/quote]

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