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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Based on your summary he is lonely and depressed.  Has this been addressed by his medical team?  He also is trying to get control / this often happens when people are ill.  So, you give him reasonable choices.  Can you text him? Let him know what is going on- I cannot call today until 7 pm.  Do you want me to call at 8 pm or call when zi have time two days from now?  Gives him a feeling of control.  You can’t wear your pajamas, but you can wear either your sweatpants or you shorts/ which do you want to wear?  So, get his team together at the care center to help with this.  You do not need to think this is doing himself in, it is giving up.  Maybe an antidepressant would help?  Encourage him to think about how to join ongoing activities he might try to see if he can find others who also would like company would help.  Stopping medication will most likely only make him uncomfortable or short of breathe which may or may not change his trend.  Is his hearing okay?  Can you get him a subscription to library for books to listen to that would help h?  What about podcasts?  You ae doing a lot for him. I am sure he appreciates it, even if he doesn’t say so.  Also see if you can get a social worker at the care center to collaborate with you on this.  They are often very helpful in these kinds of situations.  [/quote]

Thank you. I’m not opposed to him stopping extraordinary treatment. But  doesn’t seem to be that. He honestly has everything he needs except someone IRL to  have intellectual conversations with and have drinks with. That is according to him. He has had security called on him multiple times in multiple places (doctor’s office, independent and assisted living, pharmacy) in the past year because he is used to having tbings his way and he wants immediate response. His wife enabled that to a degree though she wanted a gray divorce  — neither wanted to take the financial hit. Neighbors could regularly hear him yelling at her and friends no longer wanted to visit with him involved. It is hard to watch this. [/quote]

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