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[quote=Anonymous]I posted a while ago about my DH and I having some pretty horrible issues with my MIL and the fact that my DH really wants to go to some sort of counseling with his mother.  After not speaking to or seeing her for 6+ months, she's finally decided we mean it when we say she's out of our lives, and she's agreed to go to counseling - all three of us.  DH wants to go.

Can anyone walk me through what it's like?  I've never been to any type of counseling.  Will we all meet together? Will we meet separately first (or ever) or all three walk in and hash it out?  I am really not super excited about going - I am not a confrontational person and I don't relish the idea of even seeing my MIL right now - but it means a great deal to my husband so I am willing to make it happen.

My MIL has completely insane ideas about things that have happened in the past and she's fabricated a number of stories, events, conversations, etc. that have supposedly occurred,  while conveniently forgetting or denying other hurtful things or statements that she's made.  My husband really wants to go to therapy just to get an impartial third party to listen to all of this mess and tell my MIL that she should take some ownership of the problem.  Is this realistic?  My irrational fear is that my MIL will start telling the counselor all her crazy ideas and the counselor will believe her and think that WE are the ones causing all the problems!  I'm not saying we are perfect...but she has said very hurtful, toxic lies about us and to us and she refuses to acknowledge that anything she's ever said or done could be construed as hurtful.

Just trying to figure out what we're in for and if I am up for it.  Thanks in advance for any help or advice.[/quote]

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