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[quote=Anonymous]I have a DH with autism and I’ll be honest: I didn’t realize how many spatial relations and fine motor issues it can bring with it until many years of living with him. And it’s hard and frustrating, especially if you have a kid or a pet. I stopped at one baby because DH can’t multitask and just couldn’t successfully pull off a lot of the things it takes to keep a household going. Before I took things off his plate, he either did things so slowly they never got done, or he was too rushed and forceful and broke or ruined things. He’s broken lamps and tables and framed photos and stroller attachments and totaled two cars at low speeds while parking. He can’t tie his shoes easily and just slides them on and off until they sag off his feet and DC reties them.

Now he just freezes in place until I take over, or he never tries in the first place. I don’t share this with others because I know it reflects as badly on me as it does on him.

I went into mourning for a few years without realizing it. I mourned the adult relationship I thought we’d had, I mourned the equal partner I don’t have, and I mourned the loss of the dream I had of having a man who was as handy and capable as I am. I grew up in a family with very hands-on men and women who could do, make or fix anything, and DH’s shortcomings in this area have broken my heart.[/quote]

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