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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hello!  Seeking advice from others to fortify myself for this week ahead. I am the mom of a 3 and 5 year old, and have to tell the kids about divorce next week.  So I've had my settlement agreement executed, custody agreement executed, divorce will be final in a month or two, and next week I am "moving out" into apartment although I am still going to be birds-nesting with DH.  Things are pretty amicable, or as good as they can be.  What shoudl I expect to go through in the next month to prepare myself emotionally and financially? I am seeing a therapist, and trying to just information-gather to help myself heal and go through this process head-on addressing the pain, hurt, etc., and learn lessons from the failure of my marriage to enter a healthy single-dom.

[b]Ironically, I feel REALLY good about the divorce over-all and a sense of relief and FREEDOM. My DH was abusive/alcoholic and I feel like I am just on the cusp of getting myself back to the "me" of 10 yaers ago before I linked up with this man.  He is a good father, just takes out his dark side on me his spouse, but is otherwise charming. [/b]

Is my sense of relief/optimism about the divorce a fecad/blockage of emotional pain, or is it possible to truly feel happy/relieved about a divorc?  I feel like I should be feeling more shitty-  and people say it takes 2-3 years ot recover -so am I indenial of the pain - or have others been truly happy/liberated to be free of someone who brought them down for so long?

What should I do to prepare myself for the next week- the ups and downs- general advice?

Sorry if this question is so broad in scope - but just wanted pointers!

I feel like I will do cart-wheels when I'm fully extricated.........[/quote]

I was 11 when my parents divorced. My mom was abusive and an alcoholic. I believe that because she could no longer control my father, she turned her controlling and abusive behavior towards me and my sibling. Please keep an eye out for any potentially damaging shifts to your family dynamic. [/quote]

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