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[quote=Anonymous]I've always wondered this.  My MIL was estranged from her half-sister for YEARS because she was resentful of their father's favoritism to half-sister, long after he was deceased.  They eventually reconciled at the urging of their brother but DH and his siblings never knew their aunt growing up.

I was the oldest of 3 and, in hindsight, the sterotypical eldest daughter- responsible, did well in school, didn't get into trouble much.  I don't remember as a kid feeling like the favorite, but my younger sisters thought I was and still talk about it, especially my middle sister.  As in talks behind my back to other relatives about how it made her life so hard.  WHen I recently met her new boyfriend, he greeted me with "oh! what a pleasure to finally meet the golden child!"  :shock:   As an adult, she is the only one who lives close to my parents and they've been able to help her in ways that they can't with me because of that (e.g., petsitting, housing after college, etc.) which is great!  I don't begrudge her that at all.  But she still seems to harbor a grudge against me for perceived childhood favoritism, and I'm at a loss of how to make it up to her.  I feel like I've started to pull back on relationships with my family in general, to let her be the center and dicate family events.  But that doesn't seem right either.  ANyone BTDT?

As an aside, as a parent now it definitely makes me strive hard not to favor either kid.  It's just a crappy burden to put on everyone involved.

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