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[quote=Anonymous]Hello!  Seeking advice from others to fortify myself for this week ahead. I am the mom of a 3 and 5 year old, and have to tell the kids about divorce next week.  So I've had my settlement agreement executed, custody agreement executed, divorce will be final in a month or two, and next week I am "moving out" into apartment although I am still going to be birds-nesting with DH.  Things are pretty amicable, or as good as they can be.  What shoudl I expect to go through in the next month to prepare myself emotionally and financially? I am seeing a therapist, and trying to just information-gather to help myself heal and go through this process head-on addressing the pain, hurt, etc., and learn lessons from the failure of my marriage to enter a healthy single-dom.

Ironically, I feel REALLY good about the divorce over-all and a sense of relief and FREEDOM. My DH was abusive/alcoholic and I feel like I am just on the cusp of getting myself back to the "me" of 10 yaers ago before I linked up with this man.  He is a good father, just takes out his dark side on me his spouse, but is otherwise charming.

Is my sense of relief/optimism about the divorce a fecad/blockage of emotional pain, or is it possible to truly feel happy/relieved about a divorc?  I feel like I should be feeling more shitty-  and people say it takes 2-3 years ot recover -so am I indenial of the pain - or have others been truly happy/liberated to be free of someone who brought them down for so long?

What should I do to prepare myself for the next week- the ups and downs- general advice?

Sorry if this question is so broad in scope - but just wanted pointers!

I feel like I will do cart-wheels when I'm fully extricated.........[/quote]

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