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[quote=Anonymous]I originally shared this about a year ago in response to another post and thought it would be helpful to share again, especially as many students begin preparing for college applications. I know this topic can attract mixed opinions, and that’s okay. Some may find this advice useful, even if some think it is overkill. Last time I posted it, I got a lot of positive feedback. I also often share this with friends who ask for advice.

As a mom of three—two attending / or graduated from different Ivy League schools and one at a top ivy-equivalent university—I’ve learned a lot throughout the process. For our first child we did use an extra college counselor, but we didn’t feel the need to do the same for the next two. We learned enough with the first. I also acknowledge we had a lot of privilege when it came to paying for tutors, extracurriculars, etc…

For context, my three kids have very different personalities. They’re all naturally bright to some extent, but more importantly, they’re self-motivated. My youngest needed more support with organization early in high school but adapted over time. Two went to private school, one attended public. Here is what I learned (and they learned!). Feel free to add things I could be missing.

1. Academics 
 Grades are the single most important factor in the admissions process. Consistency is key—students need to understand that even small assignments matter and even one point counts. If grades start to slip, take action early—whether that means getting a tutor, talking to teachers, or improving study habits. Planning ahead makes a huge difference. There is a difference between an A and an A-. It’s important to take challenging courses, especially in areas of interest, but grades should take priority. In most cases, an A in a regular class is better than a B in an AP class—unless it’s a subject relevant to their intended major. I didn’t realize before going through the process that some majors require specific coursework (e.g., AP Calculus for business programs).

2. Personal Branding & Passion Projects
If possible, find a way to connect personal interests or adversity to community service. One of my children turned a personal challenge into an advocacy and service initiative, while another built a project around their academic interests, incorporating travel and service into their application. Try to make a meaningful measurable impact.

3. Extracurriculars & Leadership
 Leadership is important—whether that means taking on roles in existing organizations or starting a new club. A benefit of private school was it was easy to do this. Show commitment, passion, and consistency. Seek awards or recognition in areas related to the intended major. Also, the college counselor we did hire (in addition to school one) stressed the value of a job. IMO Summer programs are fine, but they don’t mean much on an application. However, they can be good opportunities to explore interests. One of my children realized they did not want to major in Computer Science after a summer program.

4. Essays & Storytelling
 For the Common App essay, focus on that personal passion project or defining experiences that reflect core values. For supplemental essays, tie personal experiences to the school’s values and demonstrate alignment with the institution’s offerings.

5. Test Scores & Strategy
Learn the test. Practice practice practice!  This is one area I think a tutor greatly helped. That said, one of my children was accepted to an Ivy League school without submitting test scores.

6. Choosing Schools & Strategy
Look into the relationships your high school has with certain colleges. Cast a wide net, connect with alumni. If possible, take advantage of Early Decision (ED) to increase chances at top-choice school.

just my two cents. I know there is not one formula and the process can be so random at times.

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