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[quote=Anonymous]I can relate to a lot of what you wrote, OP. I did not know how to set healthy boundaries until much later in life. We didn't do family therapy, and my parents did not really meet me half way. What I accepted was that they were flawed parents who loved me fiercely, and the strength of that love went a long way. We had very different ways of looking at the world and I knew they didn't/wouldn't understand a lot of the things that moved me, just as I did not understand the things that made them tick (they carried trauma that's unique to their generation). Knowing and accepting this, I mostly spent time with them on their terms and did things that I knew would please them. Sometimes just sitting together in the same room while doing different things was enough, or sharing a nice meal together. My parents died when I had just become a mom myself. It was a very difficult time, but I think radical acceptance was the only way.[/quote]
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