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[quote=Anonymous]It's not really about confusing the kids. It's about whether the time is actually enjoyable. If it's going to be tense then it's not enjoyable.

A lot of divorcing couples start off with the best of intentions and wanting to minimize the change in their kids' lives. That's nice, but it isn't realistic. As PPs said, when one of them starts seriously dating, their new partner will want to be together on holidays, or they'll both go to the new partner's extended family, or want to stay home with new babies or whatever. So then that'll be another loss for the first batch of kids. OR, when a parenting or money disagreement comes up between the divorced couple (and new partners can intensify this), it can be hard to spend time together without the kids perceiving the tension. Big kids have big problems and parenting difficulties can be really intense. So sometimes it's better to have a more of a co-workers feel to your relationship with less pressure to get along in settings that mimic a nuclear family. Because it seems doable at first but can be very hard to sustain.[/quote]

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