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[quote=Anonymous]At 15 they are close enough to the age to let circumstances be the feedback. Meaning, if they are aiming for college soccer, interest from college coaches will tell them how they are doing. Or getting chosen for selection teams. If college soccer is not the goal, then who cares how they are playing just have fun.

Another question you need to ask yourself is why do they seek your validation after games? If you are this critical and pointing out their failings on an anonymous message board, I can only imagine how your kid received your feedback and expectations as they grew up playing soccer. They seek your validation because you set these expectations and disappointments over time. It’s time for you to let them play for themselves and not to please you.

Your response should be “I enjoyed watching you play. Did you have fun?” And that’s it. Imagine if you critiqued every one of their activities like you do soccer. If they went to the beach would you ask if they attacked or were scared of the waves? Or would you just ask if they had fun?[/quote]

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