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[quote=Anonymous]I don't know how sure you are that she's pregnant.  Obviously if you are 100% sure then you might want to proceed differently than if you think it's possible not probable.  However, this is one thought I had.

My Dad, who was a pretty conservative Christian man had a conversation with me every six months through my teenage years where he said to me basically

"I know you know that my hope is that you will remain a virgin until marriage.  But if you decide otherwise, and I find out, while I might be disappointed I won't be angry, and it won't change how I feel about you.  However, if I found out that you got pregnant, and that you didn't give me the opportunity to support you as you made your choice, and be with you and offer you help with whatever choice you made, I would be devastated.  So, please know, that if you ever find yourself with an unplanned pregnancy that I am a safe person to come to and we will figure it out together, because I love you and I wouldn't want you to be alone with that."

It was a powerful message, and while I didn't ever need it it's something I remember.

I only have sons, and I say basically the same thing to them, although I tell them I hope they will stay virgins until they are high school graduates rather than married, and I tell them that I would be devastated if I learned that they got someone pregnant and didn't stand by and support that woman in whatever choice she made, and that I hope that they would give me the opportunity to help them if they are in that situation.  I started saying this when my kids were like 13 and I was confident they were not at that point doing anything that would lead to an unplanned pregnancy."

If I suspected one of my sons had gotten someone pregnant, I'd probably use this moment to say the same thing.  If I was relatively confident, I might add -- I am seeing these signs (e.g. a positive pregnancy test in the trash can, or the following things in your search history, or overhearing a conversation . . . ), is there anything I need to know?

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