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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dh says "You NEVER do such and such!" And I get caught up in arguing that actually on occasion I do do such and such. I hate these blanket statements, especially coming from someone who normally prides himself on precision in language. But when he gets angry, he gets very insecure and gets white hot angry. It's useless to quibble over the accuracy of words with him when he gets like that. [/quote]

The word "never" nearly ruined my marriage.  It just leads to trying to justify that "never" isn't true, which leads to comparing what one person does versus the other.

As to semantics, I sometime try very hard to nail DH down on what he really means, because he is very loose with his language, as am I somtimes.  Once I learned to understand that he wasn't criticize what I said, but was trying to have a deeper understanding of what I was saying, things loosened up.  I also learned to ask him what he meant when he was being imprecise and echoing back what he had said in my own words until we came to an understanding.

Just a thought.[/quote]

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