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[quote=Anonymous]My mom had an emergency surgery more than a month ago and since, has had complications, nearly died twice but survived. She’s now in a rehab facility but not doing great. She’s hasn’t walked yet and PT is a struggle. She’s 85 and was in ok health before all this, but lived a very sedentary lifestyle.

Mom’s house is incredibly cluttered and needs cleaning out. She has been resistant for years to us throwing out virtually anything.

So far, all the siblings have been on the same page related to mom’s care, etc but now one of us wants to clean everything out and have an estate sale. I’m not there yet. Mom probably isn’t coming home again but she would be furious if she knew we brought strangers in to go through all her stuff. Cleaning out, yes, let’s toss the junk. But the rest of it? Childhood toys, purses and shoes and a lifetime of papers and dishes and collectibles from travel? I’m just having a hard time with it emotionally. I guess bc I know if she finds out or questions me about it, I don’t want to lie and I know she will be upset if she knows we are just tossing her things.

Even my DH is pressuring me to start dumping everything in her house. I’m even worried about how it might affect her grandchildren, who don’t even have a clear picture why their grandma hasn’t come home yet…
I’m struggling and not sure what to do….

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