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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you very much; this is helpful.  For what it's worth, I'm not a tiger mom and I'm not all that Type A myself.  DD has accomplished these things on her own, not because we have pushed her.  I was just startled to hear such a stark statement from her, which is why I solicited feedback.

I'll talk to DH about backing off from this.

Thank you again.[/quote]

I played piano from age 7-17.  I was enrolled in competitions and did moderately well.  However, my mother pushed me and pushed me to practice, to learn, to compete.  And I did not enjoy it.  I thought that I didn't enjoy playing the piano or music.  When I was 17, my mother finally relented and said that she was tired of pushing me and if I didn't want to play, I didn't have to.  I quit that week.  I then went over 15 years without playing music again (but I did sing in that time).  I thought I didn't enjoy playing music.  In my 30's I finally had access to a piano again and picked it up and you know what?  I did enjoy it.  I love music and love playing music, being able to read music, etc.  But I don't enjoy competing or having to play or practicing.  That's work.  Music is fun and I love it.  Don't kill your child's love for music by forcing her to only do it competitively.  Music by itself is a lifelong reward and she should enjoy it however she can.  If she *WANTS* to compete. then she should, but she should not compete just because her parents expect it of her.[/quote]

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