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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with any strategies that can get you through this phase.  Realize it is a phase with two little ones.  They aren't little forever and the stress will get better as they get older.

I agree your nanny should be able to cook and clean a little to help out.  Sitting down with your husband and listing responsibilities is also a good way to divide the labor.  Some people (myself included) work more efficiently if they can visualize with a chart what needs to be done.  You each have skills you are better at and things you like doing.  Example, my husband takes care of all the yard work.  He spends many hours doing that while I do all the laundry.  Some chores are more physical.  Some chores just take more time to do.  As long as both partners are making an effort, don't try to make things 50/50.  The split is in the eye of the beholder and all jobs are not equal.

Also, make sure you give your husband credit when credit is due.  He may not do a task the same way you would have done it.  Nagging him about it will discourage him from trying in the future.  Praising him will make him want to continue and he may get better at the task with time.

Finally, toddlers can learn to help pick up their toys.  It is actually the best time to start teaching them because then it becomes a life habit.  Give them 5 minutes to clean up (you can verbally explain where things go - pictures on baskets help) after each playtime.  In my house, we would sing the Barney Clean Up song while picking up.  Give them more responsibilities as they get older (ex. put napkins on the table for dinner, move up to cups, silver ware and eventually plates; have them help sort the laundry into color piles).  Young kids actually like having jobs around the house.  They are proud when they make a contribution.  Making them their own responsibilities chart as they get older is a good way to model positive reinforcement by giving them a sticker or prize if they do all the things they are responsible for.[/quote]

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