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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Her writing issues might be a sign of early Alzheimer’s, same as confusion and being flustered. Try to get a DPOA, take control of her finances, and get her checked out for Alz. [/quote]

This.  My mom (age 83 with moderate Alzheimer’s, currently living in memory care) started showing symptoms when she was around 77 years old.  One of her first symptoms was a decrease in executive functioning skills.  She was no longer able to manage finances or keep track of appointments.  Writing checks became difficult.  She wasn’t able to keep track of due dates so bills were paid late or not at all.  She’d receive a bill or other document in the mail and she’d fly into a panic, not knowing what it was or what to do with it.  She could no longer handle automated menus so making phone calls to take care of official business became overwhelming for her.  And she never learned to use a computer so “banking” to her involved going to the bank in person, which stopped when driving became too difficult. She was also sending money to every charity that sent her solicitations in the mail.  We’d tell her to just put everything into a basket so we could go through it whenever we visited, but that didn’t work.

I ended up getting DPOA and completely taking over her finances. All “official” mail comes to my address and at the memory care she gets only “fun” mail like cards and letters from friends.  This was the easiest, cleanest way to handle things and thankfully she didn’t resist.  [/quote]

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