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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let’s say it louder for the people in the back- true feminism is supporting women in ALL their choices, not just the ones you agree with. [/quote]

Yup exactly. It was mentioned in another thread how some MILs would love it if their DILs stayed home because it would support their son’s career and I’m like holy shit what!?!! So even in 2024 a woman’s sole purpose is to smile and nod and make things easier for the man so he can move up in the corporate ladder?? If my MIL only saw me as that I would be so hurt. Luckily my MIL sees me as a full person and member of her family with so much to offer.[/quote]

My own mom thinks I should stay home so my husband could lean in and make more money and I could avoid daycare. My mom is more offended that my husband doesn’t make enough to support a family [/quote]

It’s that old school generational mindset of how the order of things should go. The man goes out and makes all the money and the woman stays home and raises the children. Those from that generation who feel that way will never change their mindset. And oh yeah you can’t forget the sprinkled topping of, “how can you let strangers raise your children.” I’m sorry your own mom is like that. How do you respond to her when she pushes that agenda on you?[/quote]

My MIL is also very much like that. When we hired a nanny after child 2 was born she literally said "I couldn't believe it that you would put your first child in someone else's care.  Now 2!!" In her stuffy judgmental british accent.  I looked her straight in the eye and said, I provide this quality of life for this family because we cannot do it on one income and have zero family help.  She was offended and I didn't care.  As the kids aged (both girls) she saw how well rounded and articulate they are, but I still made her stuffy wrinkled skin crawl with phrases like "no asky no getsky".  Because, of course women have to wait for everything to be offered and aren't allowed to go after what they truly want in her eyes.  I still don't care that those things offend her.  However, all the great things my kids are comes from her side of the family or are inherent to them, all the bad things are still because of me.[/quote]

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