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[quote=Anonymous][quote] OP, I second therapy for you. It sounds like the family dynamic is unhealthy and you’re stuck in a role that is miserab[b]le. I think a therapist could help you figure out what you want, what’s realistic, and how to set boundaries that work for you.[/b] Don’t have a screaming match and accept that it’s unlikely that your sister and parents wil change. Focus on what you can control- your own choices and behavior. Whatever you decide it’s probably going to result in some pushback from your parents. They are not going to like it when you start saying no to some things. A good therapist can help you plan for how to deal with that as well.[/quote]

This is good advice IMO. You need to be able to figure out what YOU really want given the dynamic. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing, continue as is or cut them off. But figuring out what your feelings, wants, and limits are is critical, and IME therapy is really helpful for that.

The fact that you say she screams and hits you when she is angry adds an extra layer—your kids are witnessing this behavior, and you need to think about how you feel about exposing them to such behavior.  You are accepting this behavior from her, but would you accept it from anyone else?[/quote]

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