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[quote=Anonymous]You should have 2 concerns at this time:

1.  How to make sure your kid continues to do well in college

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2.  How to pay for your kid's college

Hopefully you had #2 figured out before you chose to uncover your husband's affair and break up the marriage instead of letting the affair smolder.  Most affairs eventually stop on their own if you just let them alone.  Now this is a much messier situation that is harder to fix.

If you kind of got all emotional and did not really think #2 through, then you need to start thinking about it.

It is horrid, but there is most likely no legal recourse to make your husband pay for your child's college if they choose not to do it.  If you are financially set, and kid's tution is all locked in within a dedicated fully funded 529 plan, that is great!  Otherwise, you may find out your husband's priorities have waaaaaaaaaaay shifted now.

As to the substance of your question, say whatever you need to your kid to allow them to keep studying instead of getting depressed, or overly involved in this sordid affair.  You are super focused on your own feelings of being betrayed right now.  These are important, but if you can, talk them through with the therapist or something, and focus on supporting your child. [/quote]

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