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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have emotionally detached entirely, after years of feeling completely gaslighted. I' tried everything. Even when my kids, who are not young adults and teens, tell him that he's wrong (he said or did X instead of Y, as he claims), he persists. I guess [b]he lies to himself. [/b]

Whether I manage to divorce remains to be seen, because I don't have the finances yet.

[b]My husband has an ASD/ADHD profile. [/b]Not everyone who has that behaves in this way (my son has it, and is as sweet and honest as can be). But I've known others with this profile who did the same thing, so this tendency to [b]rewrite history or have irrational tendencies[/b] may be more common with that sort of brain.
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Same. Can’t believe anything he says. Nor rely on him.

It’s not the adhd/asd that does this, it’s the maladaptive coping methods he self-developed (lying, omitting, gaslighting, rewriting the narrative)

Their perceptions are often @$$ backwards.

And don’t get me started on how stubborn and oppositional they are with any suggestions or questions. They’d rather start a 10 minute argument than answer a question about how the dog got out (they left the door open- but why apologize for that when you can argue and attack the other adult!?).
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