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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've been married 15 years.  I feel like most of the big compromises (finances, kids, where to live) have all been settled.  We generally had the same idea on those.  Id say our biggest compromise now is DS' social life.   DS is in 6th grade.  I grew up very over scheduled.  Lots of activities and playdates.  Busy every weekend and most weeknights.  DH grew up very opposite.  He sometimes thinks I try to over schedule DS too much or that I stress out too much that DS isn't social enough or busy enough.

But our difference in how we view this doesn't cause problems.  We discuss it, we discuss our different points, and then we figure out what works.  We've reached a happy medium so far.

I think you're at the point where compromising isn't an option. There seems to be too much contempt. Compromising only works when both parties respect each other and want to work out the issue together.   It's not his way or her way.  [/quote]

I thought there was not much too compromise. I was naive, a few years ago his views started shifting and now there is something new that was not there before every year. He is mostly not willing to discuss with me, maybe 5-10 mins then storms away and tells me I am free to divorce. [/quote]

Has your prequency for having "personal time" changed with the baby (which I know is a common outcome).

My DH basically became irrational because we were down to maybe once every other month, and he didn't know how to communicate his needs about *that* but instead became rigid and strident on other topics as a side effect.[/quote]

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