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[quote=Anonymous]Taking care of our 4yo nephew for a week, and whew! I love him to bits but he is also so exhausting. It is constant hands on management. We kind of need him to just go with the flow with our family as we have lots of competing obligations, activities and responsibilities.

But his expectations are the complete opposite. He expects to call ALL the shots and it’s been constant coaching him that he doesn’t get to boss everyone around and tell us how the day is going to go and how he expects us to bend to his every whim.

Also he just starts beating up on our kids who are older than him, and our kids are just too nice to fight back. I nipped that in the bud, but I don’t even know where that is coming from as I know he loves them, follows them around everywhere. But if they are not doing exactly what he wants them to do, that is his strategy.

And it is just constant demands. He wants us to take him to target to go buy him a toy. He wants us to take him to the ice cream shop to buy him an ice cream cone with sprinkles. He wants us to take him to the wood shop to buy wood to build him a tree fort. And he says it like “hey. I need to tell you something. I know exactly what we should do tomorrow. We’ll go out early in the morning and have an amazing adventure at target. And you will buy me this thing I saw at target that mommy won’t even buy for me.” And I’m like, yeah we’re not doing that tomorrow. We already have plans to do x”

Our kids would never have the gumption to even say something like that to their family members, so a part of me is like, why does he constantly think he is running the show here?

Also it’s things like having the last word. I might say, ok I’m going to cook up some “bacon, sausages, eggs, and waffles for breakfast.” And he’ll say, “ok you can cook the sausages and eggs, and make extra for me. Don’t make the waffles and bacon because I don’t want to eat it.” And I’ll say well I’ll make the waffles and bacon for everyone else. And he’ll say “NO! Only the eggs and sausages! I SAID I DONT WANT THE OTHER STUFF!!” And I’ll be like, sorry bud, you don’t get to tell us what we can cook or can’t cook in our house. But it’s stuff like this. It’s exhausting.

Is this an only child thing? Personality trait? Just stubbornness?

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