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I’ve come to believe a not insubstantial number of these women - maybe 10 percent overall- are the abusive ones themselves and/or lying or exaggerating about their abuse.  There is a real strain of histrionics with some of them and it makes my skin crawl. They have found supportive groups like the one I’m in where they can feel validated and wrap themselves in victimhood, ignoring any personal accountability for their lives.

I dont know how to deal with them in our group events. Ignore? [/quote]

Given that you are in the group one assumes you are a survivor. Given this, consider how easy you have just proven it to be for those not affected to doubt anyone/everyone who claims to be a survivor.

Stop assuming you know how one person's abuse and trauma impacts their behavior and concentrate on your own healing.

You do not help anyone by fixating on whether others are believable or not. It's not your job nor your responsibility.

Offer support and receive it, otherwise get out of the group.[/quote]

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