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[quote=Anonymous]I’ve got a slightly similar situation. I think if he is content with every other weekend, he’s probably not going to change, no matter how close you are. Your child is also almost old enough to be more independent so the childcare burden won’t be as heavy.

Also - you MUST think about your own economic well being and lifestyle. Ex moved because he was prioritizing his own finances and convenience (moving into the inherited house.) For you to make a big financial sacrifice to accommodate HIS financial/lifestyle preferences doesn’t make sense. Especially given that he could decide to move at any time.

Also you should only consider this in the context of an overall resolution of all the property and custody issues in the marriage. If you are going to move closer in a way that benefits him, that should be reflected in the financiak settlement. If he decides he needs to sell the inherited house as part of the property settlement, where does that leave you? And given that he’s a bit of a deadbeat, you probably want the current custody arrangement to be reflected in the custody and support order.

All that said - if you independently like the town where he lives and believe that living closer provides benefits to you and your kid, you should do it. But only if you’d be happy there with or without him. Because a guy like this could easily sell the house and move another 20 miles away. Do not forget - he prioritizes himself, not his kid, not you. 
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