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[quote=Anonymous]Keep the house for now.  Ex wants you to.  You can wait to make this decision for a couple of years.

Since you have 90% of the custody, you need to minimize your commute to be a more fully present mom. You will end up doing most of the extracurricular stuff.  Ex can travel to you.

You said the schools are worse.  That's a big reason not to move...transition plus worse schools.  Your kid is 9.  A good time to move if you need to is before middle school or before high school.  No matter what, it's going to be a bandaid-ripping-off kind of feeling.

If you are super-friendly with Ex and believe kid will be walking over to hang with a dad who is content with 10% custody out of the gate, then IDK maybe that's worth something?

Keep in mind that your Ex, with a fully-owned house, may marry again and raise more kids.  How do you personally think your kid might react to that?  If oblivious/welcoming, no issue.  If kid will not want to go over to a house that's noisy with a baby, or have a meltdown due to having to deal with steps, or whatever, it may not be idyllic to be so close.

Seems like your friends and family would know your ex better than internet people.  Their advice is probably better than ours.[/quote]

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