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[quote=Anonymous]Husband and I split earlier this year. He moved about 20 miles away into a fully paid off, newly renovated, inherited property in a nice family oriented neighborhood.

I stayed in the primary home with our 9/yo. Because of the distance, exs early work schedule, custody is not quite 90/10.  I have our child Sunday-Thursday and we try to alternate a Fri-Sat stay every other weekend.

We haven’t started the divorce process just yet but are negotiating, ex says I can keep the house we are in, which keeps us where we are. Good for continuity, structure for kiddo, keeps current friends, better schools upcounty, close to work for me. I can easily afford the mortgage but it’s a huge house for 2 people.

Im considering moving to his area so we can have more shared parental responsibility, which was lacking in our marriage, and may still continue to be. Pros: kid sees his dad a lot more, I get a smaller (but more expensive house) probably within walking distance to ex, we move to a neighborhood with more families and maybe establish a village. Cons: life is upheaved, kid has to change schools, I lose 2.5 interest rate, I’m farther from work, schools not as highly rated.

I’d rather be living here in the future, but primary focus for me is what’s best for the kid. I realize this is an unusual situation but my friends and family are all telling me to stay where I am and I want to know what a bunch of anon individuals on the internet think. 
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