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[quote=Anonymous]We went through this with our 1st grader and the two things that helped were:

1) Addressing fundamentals like sleep and hunger. Our kid had a voracious appetite at that age. Could seriously have eaten every hour on the hour. Was at the same time a picky eater. It was hard but we figured it out and it helped a lot. We also wound up adjusting our morning so she could sleep in about 30 minutes later because trying to move up bedtime was a daily crisis. Daily exercise is also a must.

2) Building in time and ways for her to tell us about her troubles. We play "rose-thorn-bud" when we pick her up from school and we also built in about 20 minutes at bedtime where one of us hangs out with her in her room and we just listen or ask very open ended questions like "how are you feeling about soccer these days?" or "tell me what is the hardest thing about being a 7 year old?" We validate and listen and don't judge or tell her how to feel. We learn a lot.

Oh we also got her a journal and encourage her to write in there if she is having strong feelings.

The takeaway for me was that there was nothing specifically "wrong" but just that as she got older and dealt with slightly more stress and complexity in her life she needed more and better support for talking through it and expressing herself. Also just realizing we don't actually have to DO anythign most of the time. She will complain to us about something being unfair or some issue with a friend or just disliking something at school and we can just listen and be a sounding board but she's at an age where this isn't about running to fix whatever it is. She literally just needs someone to talk to.[/quote]

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