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[quote=Anonymous]Updating. As I got a lot of good advice on this thread. Also just venting. I haven't been able to talk about this with anyone even DH.

But I posted this a few months ago

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1206175.page

DH and I made sure my mother knew the boundary we had in place and why and she said nothing to worry about and stopped asking. She even went out of her way to reassure us.

Less than 48 hours after baby girl was born I get a text from my brother saying congratulations. You could have told me.

I was in shock. Also less than 2 days postpartum and still in the hospital after a C-section with DH and baby. Start crying immediately and looking to see if anyone else but my mother could have posted on social Media. Nope. So I text saying she had one boundary and she couldn't even follow it. And then some. Her response was as a grandmother she had to tell them.

It hurts even more knowing she waited until baby was her and I was postpartum. This seems more cruel than just telling them when I pregnant. She also knows and acknowledges my brother as a child molester - saying well no visits but I just told him and my grandsons and he won't ever meet her.

I said a lot of things while feeling like absolute garbage that I couldn't even protect my 2 day old baby. And I should have known my mother would never change. It was my fault for thinking she could or would want to for this child if she couldn't even do it for me. I turned off my phone and saw one text saying please don't do this to me- cutting her off. And I didn't look at any other texts. Probably won't for a while.

Anyway trying to enjoy postpartum time and not think about this but I did remember so many of you saying she wouldn't change and I wish I had been more prepared - I think I was during pregnancy. But it truly feels like another level of hate to do this and tell him after she's her and I'm in the hospital.

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