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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Things that my wonderful MIL have done for me, the DIL
- included me in family pictures at weddings
- given me family recipes
‐ invited me out to dinners if they were in town, even if my BF now DH wasn't available
Now that we're married with kids, MIL
- got an apartment near our house and helped take care of the babies for a year
- gave me family jewelry
[b]- includes me in discussions about their estate planning[/b]
- lots of casual communication, texts, facetime
- cards for my birthday and our anniversary
- gives us lots of space, noncritical but always available to help[/quote]

Your ILs sound wonderful. Curious, if you don’t mind me asking, how do they handle this? Should your spouse pre-decease you, would his share go to you directly or would it “skip” you and go directly to your children?[/quote]

Np I’m included in my in-laws estate planning and am their executor. I’m not greedy nor am I interested in their money. Dh and his brothers split their parents estate equally, nothing to their spouses. If Dh predeceases them, our kids get the money that would have been dhs. I think I’m included because they know it will be their daughter in laws clearing out the house, executing the funerals and basically doing most of the work. I do all of the finances for my own family. Dh isn’t bad with money, he’s just a bit of an absent minded scientist.

They were putting spouses in the estate, but one brother got divorced. They aren’t concerned about the others divorcing, just that it created a bit of inequality in the will if spouses got money but one didn’t have a spouse. [/quote]

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