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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is frightening me. My mom is 89 and just got a great bill of health. My husband and I are 62. I feel horrible about feeling resentful that she is living this long and that we will have to take care of her.

She has a small pension and SS but it will not cover a nursing home when she will need it.  I just found out she has been donating all her money to  Korean religious (legal)organization. [b]I just screamed at her about this[/b], yes, give something but not all. Just to be buried is $8k- $10k.  We still have kids in college that we are supporting and would like to move to a warmer state at one point.

My sibling doesn’t seem to care about her. And leaves everything to me. I can’t even look at her right now, I feel trapped. She’ll probably live to 100. All my relatives overseas live long…. I love her, but-[/quote] Damn, that seems harsh, no? I know it's infuriating, but these scammers target the elderly for a reason; they play on their vulnerability and lack of understanding of modern technologies. [/quote]

DP - I don't scream at my parents, but I do raise my voice about certain things (like when my dad let a remote scammer take control of his computer and start installing things). My parents are emotional people. Not terribly logical or critical. Me getting really agitated and loud is more impactful than me calmly listing the ways scammers try to trick them. Now my parents send me screenshots of texts and emails that they're unsure about. It means a lot of extra noise for me, but it's better than them just clicking on things. Calmly asking them to be more critical of what they're clicking on (as I had done 100 times before) did not have as much of an impact.

People make it sound easy to say "sorry mom, I'm not going to let you live in poverty because you made bad decisions," but the reality is much much harder whether or not it is deserved. [/quote]

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