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[quote=Anonymous]We are 31 and 32 with a 6mo old. We suggested a beach trip with my parents and offered to cover the costs. They have fond memories of Hilton Head when we were younger so that's what we were planning to go. The issues:

1. We are fine covering the ~$7k for a modern house, with an extra bedroom for the baby, near the beach, in a quiet neighborhood. We can easily afford it which I think they know but they refuse to let us pay. I assume out of ego or pride.

2. They would prefer cheapest accommodations possible. Imagine a normal 2BR rental unit that's a bike ride or long walk (15-20+ min) to the beach. The rentals in their price range closer to the beach are older and run-down.

3. My mom has a bit of a contrarian streak towards me. Every place I send has something wrong with it. I think this bothers me more because I have a somewhat lazy/underachieving sibling with the "golden child who can do no wrong" dynamic. Examples:

The beach there is not nice at all! Ok, but we stayed there 2 years ago and you didn't mention it?

You're not only insisting on getting a house, right? We only need 2 bedrooms. Any more is wasteful.

I don't want to sound like a snob but after she rejects my suggestions which are objectively nice houses close to the beach (that again, we are politely offering to cover) the places she sends are basically all dumpy condos that are either far away from the beach or in a high-rise where even the marketing materials show the beach as being super crowded.

4. They are insisting on a week. Spouse and I both agree this is too much, they can become difficult and repetitive after a couple days. Even when we say 4 days max they have and will continue to dwell on it.

Just planning it makes me want to pull the plug on the whole thing. Am I being unreasonable?[/quote]

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