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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I came to realize that my spouse has an ADHD/ASD profile, based on our son's diagnosis. It explained his previous job losses and chronic underemployment.

Point is, either I'm in or out: this is not someone who can change his entire persona and learn from all his mistakes. He's improved in the 20 years I've known him, but the core persona will always be the same.

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Me again. Fired for not producing work on time, because he's geeking out over one part of it and didn't pay attention to the deadline. Or the first to be let go in lean times for being always late, always a little socially awkward, etc. That kind of thing. When he does produce work, it's perfect and goes above and beyond. So some teams with guaranteed funding (this is in scientific research) really appreciate his trouble-shooting expertise.

I am neither sympathetic nor unsympathetic. It's not what he wants from me. What he wants is an interesting intellectual challenge, hopefully in an environment with flexible deadlines and lots of creative freedom (and getting paid to do what he likes). Since I'm not in the same field, I just let him muddle through.[/quote]

So it sounds like he doesn't need your support or kindness. Just carry on.[/quote]

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