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[quote=Anonymous]Does anyone have any advice for a pushover? I have an accommodating personality and it does make me happy often to do things for others. I’m also a hardworker and helpful. It leads to resentment from me though and makes me angry at the other person when it’s not their fault. I say no often but my first impulse is to always say yes and it gets me in trouble. I’m sure there’s anxiety mixed in here too because I ruminate on it way too much.

A few things that bothered me recently-
-I have always worked long hours at work and do the work of 1.5 people. My workload has become untenable recently and I asked for another FTE. My boss doesn’t see it though because I’ve worked too hard to make it work. Clearly I’ve taken on too much. I have more work than I could do in 120 hours a week. I don’t even see how my team can scale back without absolutely everything falling apart on us.

- nanny asked for an extra day a week to work. I said yes but I didn’t want it. I enjoy taking the kids to activities on that day. I had really been looking forward to it and I’m also bitter about the extra cost. Why did I say yes?! This one bothers me a lot and I’m debating letting her go instead and getting someone different.

- got voluntold by both Girl Scouts and the PTA for activities that I didn’t have time for. [/quote]

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