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[quote=Anonymous]Input, yes. Control, no.

DS chose his name, and it sounds similar to a derivative of his birth name. At first I didn’t love it because I loved his birth name and it was hard for me to say something so similar and not slip and say the wrong name. He was patient and eventually I adjusted.

I think the name being on the no fly list or knowing someone with a similar name is not a good reason if your child doesn’t mind those things. Your post sounds like you’re upset that the name you chose was rejected and you’re trying to keep control of the name. I get it. We put a lot of thought and care into the names we give our children. However, there are a lot of reasons our kids might not use those names, and we don’t get to control all the other nicknames, so this isn’t really different. What if you pick the new name and then someone with the same name winds up on the no fly list (so many people are on the no fly list), or is the next school shooter? Are you going to insist they let you rename them again? Would you do the same to your other child?

A lot of times when people are trying to control things it’s because they’re anxious. Is it possible you’re anxious about how people will perceive your child (and you vicariously) for being NB and if you pick the perfect name you think maybe people won’t notice or question it as much? If that’s the case, do you think that’s the best way to deal with your anxiety or to handle your child’s name? [/quote]

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