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[quote=Anonymous]Trans woman here...I would say yes you should talk to your child about their new name. A lot of people do want their parents to provide input into the new name they choose. Everyone I know also kept their original last name when they made their legal name change with the exception of people that were completely estranged from their families.

Some NB people will go with some common names like Alex, Robin, or Jordan while others explicitly choose a name that's less common and outright sounds nonbinary.  There's also the middle name to consider. If someone in your (or your partner's) family has an androgynous or unisex name and you were fond of that person, it might be a good idea to ask your child to consider the name (or names) or a variation of it.

I agree with the person that said many people do end up choosing a different name later. Several people I know did change their name a few times (and these were adults) before settling on their final name. One person I know picked a name she liked but then later learned that it was a common stereotypical trans name. She later chose a family name that had a lot of meaning to her. Others picked names early in transition while they were still exploring their queer identities that really kind of stuck out when said out loud to only later realized they didn't actually want attention when someone just said their name.

You're an adult and can provide some good feedback in terms of what would be good name combinations but ultimately they can choose to go with whatever name they want. By the time they're 18 and ready to change their legal name, they may very well have reconsidered if they choose something unusual for now.[/quote]

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