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[quote=Anonymous]Suppose nobody feels great on this day but I just filed to end the marriage between myself and my wife.  We dated for four years and were married for eleven.  Two kids, both in middle school.  We tried therapy, both individual and marriage but it did not save us.  In the end, we just wanted different things in life - I travel for work and am ambitious - she wanted a 1950's husband.  I am very interested in politics and the arts - she avoids these subjects.  I try to be a firm but loving parent, she disciplines like a prison guard.

I am going through a million emotions but the thing that really gets me is the memories of when we first met and got married - days where there were so many hopes and dreams that now will not fully get resolved.  I can still remember the first time I ever kissed her as if it was yesterday.  I also worry about my children and how this will affect them.  The look on their faces when they found out I was leaving is something I will remember to my dying days.

One thing I definitely do not want to do is even think about dating for a very long time if ever.  Instead of trying to morph into what women are looking for in men, time out - I need to figure out and be what I want.  Outside of being with my children, I would like to travel, read books, improve my tennis game, and see what ways the world could use some of my energy and skills.

Marriage advice from a divorcing man might sound stupid to listen to, but what I would recommend is never miss the opportunity to use your ears to hear what a spouse is telling you in terms of their needs/wants.  It is too easy in this world of ours to let work, cleaning the hoise, and everything else get in the way of good communications.[/quote]

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