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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a perfect scenario for 123 Magic. You have made it clear what whining looks and sounds like. They do it. You immediately say, “Stop whining. That’s one.” They don’t again. You say, “That’s two.” They do it again. You say, “That’s three.You’ve lost the device for the rest of the day.” No discussion or explanation or other verbal input from you.

If they continue, you say, “That’s one to losing it for a second day.” They continue whining. You say, “That’s two.” They continue. You say, That’s three. No device for today or tomorrow.” Then make sure you follow through. Post the return date on a sticky note on the fridge.  Repeat as needed. As long as you are very consistent, it will work.

If you have a kid with an impulse control issue, you may have to give them time to collect themselves between counts so they can process what you said.

You can restart the count if needed after a significant time has passed, like from ten in the morning and again at three.

You should act this out with them ahead of time so they clearly see what is going to happen. Do it as a role play for each child to see. [/quote]

This. All of it. It’s what we used with our kids at this age. The key to making it work is to not engage with explanations. That’s the beauty of 1-2-3 Magic. It gives you a way to respond without emotion and minimal engagement.

I don’t negotiate with terrorists and neither should you. [/quote]

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