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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had one of these serious conversations with a woman who was very cautious.  I told her I was interested in a serious, exclusive relationship.  In hindsight, I wish we had sexual activity before we became exclusive.  W

After we started our exclusive relationship we had sex, and the the sex was mediocre.  I thought she was wonderful as a person but I guess I just wasn't very attracted to her physically.  My performance left a lot to be desired, though she was always more satisfied than I was (if you know what I mean), and getting in sync was really difficult.  She thought I was just a nornal middle aged man and slow to rise, but with other women (before and after) that has not been a problem.

After a few months of hoping I would become more attracted to her, I broke up with her.  I felt guilty and she was hurt.

My advice is that you should at least take off all your clothes before you become exclusive.  [/quote]

Was she overweight, had a big belly etc that was repulsive and thus you couldn't rise? Or something else?

You didn't have the correct conversation - promised relationship exclusivity before figuring out sexual compatibility. I'm a woman and I never commit to continuing sex for that long. I just ask him to stop sleeping with others, and give it a few tries just to figure out if we are sexually compatible. Seems like if he's not entangled seriously with anyone and likes me, it shouldn't be a problem for a man to agree to exclusive but non-committal sexual relationship to address each others' needs. I continue going out and texting with other men but don't take any dinner/weekend evenings dates offers for a few weeks to give time to figure things out.

But if the guy tells no to trying and learning each other closer without having it spoilt by his sexual commitments to others, I move on.[/quote]

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