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[quote=Anonymous]

You're thinking about this all wrong.

People don't pick their partners based on their absence of flaws. They pick them based on an attraction or a particular trait that they find really appealing. And when they see the accompanying flaws - because there always are flaws! - they think it's fine because of the appealing trait.

Then years down the road, maybe the appeal still holds, but the flaws have been exacerbated by the demands of a career, households and kids. There's just more pressure all around. 
People under pressure start not behaving well, even though they weren't like that to begin with. Do you ditch the spouse, or do you try to reduce the pressure? Do you see that past a certain point, when kids are in college, elders don't need your help, career has peaked, the pressure might be reduced?

Of course there's more to it than that. But my point is that marriage comes with ups and downs and the question usually is whether it's worthwhile to figure it out, or better to bail. If you bail, you'd better be very sure you can be happy by yourself. There is no guarantee you'll find someone better. If you do, maybe they're better just because you're both older and have less pressure, not because they're inherently a better person than the ex.

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