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[quote=Anonymous]Generally the person you see as a jerk has some good points that their partner values. When I look at my friends' husbands, and hear my friends complain about them, their bad points are made quite visible to me. But I know, intellectually, that they are good providers, love their wife and kids (one is indeed the primary parent), and even though they have their bad points (anger management problems, workaholism, two were/are devout anti-abortion Catholic whose wives ended up needing an abortion!)... The good outweighs the bad, for my friends.

My point is that there's a difference between men you wouldn't want to live with, but other women would be fine living with, who are decent human beings at heart; and jerks with no redeeming features who objectively NO ONE would want to live with. The jerks are actually quite rare.

We all have different flaws we're OK with, essentially. My very high-IQ husband has autism, and all the social misunderstandings that come with it. Would YOU tolerate that? Maybe not. I do. He cares a lot for me, even though he also infuriates me.

It's complicated.

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