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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Why do we assume everyone wants marriage or somehow that’s better? [/b]Maybe the best is already here! Why not assume people are happy as they are? I mean stay open to all possibilities but don't think like there is a box to be checked.[/quote]

The people who know better are not on this board.[/quote]

Actually, some of us are.

But I will say that between socialization and biological reproductive drive, I spent many years trying to find the things that would make me 'complete' - even though that still small voice inside kept rejecting the opportunities that came my way, so clearly some part of me didn't actually feel those things would better my life or make me feel fulfilled.

I finally resolved the inner conflict in midlife, after a number of relationships that failed to inspire and made me realize that I wasn't likely to find the kind of partner I wanted, and I had seen enough of what my family and friends were experiencing in marriage to recognize how much disappointment predominated.

Getting to menopause has been hugely liberating. Something shuts off in your head after that reproductive drive is gone, and there is so much more room to accept that it's okay to be happy on your own if that's actually what makes you happy. Now I'm looking forward to spending the rest of my life at peace with being enough - well, as long as there is a dog involved. ;)[/quote]

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