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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

As a PP suggested, I think she preemptively pushes people away to avoid feeling rejected. I get it but it doesn't allow for the possibility of making an actual connection. She's lived in the same mid-sized town for 45 years and does not have a social network at all. At most she has one or two people she can call and they live in nearby towns.

Regarding her mental health, there is nothing I can do about that. I suggested that she see a therapist many times and it's a 100% no go. She has zero interest and she will not. I've suggested that she move closer to me and that's a no go. I've suggested she look into different communities that would be easier physically and she's definitely not interested. She wants to do what she wants and that's it.

I totally get the posters who have parents who just want to do their own thing and not worry about the consequences. [b]My thoughts are, though, if you do these things, you have to own it. If you block your family, refuse to work on friendships, and don't attend to your mental health, you have to embrace both the pros and cons of those decisions[/b].[/quote]

You can say this to her. I don't think she'll change at this point but it might make you feel better. 
Is there anything you can do together at a distance? Each knit something? Exchange pictures of your house plants? That is social in itself plus there are online communities for that kind of thing, you could maybe ease into community that way. 
My mom has a paranoia of being hacked. It's anxiety, fueled by watching the news. Try to get her to turn off the news if you can. I set up a separate email for my mom to use in online accounts like Facebook and offered to monitor it. This doesn't create a lot of real safety but she feels better. [/quote]

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